Rest In Peace, Chester Bennington
Chester Bennington, lead singer for Linkin Park, took his own life on July 21st, leaving his fans, friends and family in shock and disbelief. Yes, the lead singer for the wildly successful band was moody and haunted by a dark past. That much is starkly evident in his lyrics. Yes, he openly struggled with addiction and depression. But in the last few years he had put those times behind him. He had seven months of sobriety and by all outer appearances, seemed to have it all together. He had a beautiful wife, 6 healthy children, a successful career and more money than you can count. He had every reason to be happy. Why would he commit suicide?
Suicide is a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORARY problem
Depression and Addiction Are a Lethal Mix
As recently as February of this year, when in an interview with Music Choice he said,” “Even when it’s good, I just am uncomfortable all the time. . . . The opening line, ‘I don’t like my mind right now’ (From his new song “Heavy”) – like, that is me 24 hours a day.” This leads us to believe that, though he had physical sobriety, his emotional stability was still precarious. His relapse last October is well publicized and the Los Angeles coroner reported that there was an open liquor bottle in the room where he died. While writing and performing music helped Chester deal with his internal pain, his struggles with drugs and depression won out in the end. Was there something else he could have done to find peace?
Recent research has shown that depression and substance abuse are a lethal combination. To someone who is severely depressed and in the grips of addiction, suicide may seem like the only way out. We assure you it is not. It is a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORARY problem.
Suicide doesn’t end pain. It passes it on to someone else
If suicide is sounding like a viable option to you right now, here are some things you should consider.
Everything Changes with Time Everything changes in this world. Everything. How you feel, your physical and emotional state, the people, jobs, living places….everything is going to be different in the future than it is now. So making a decision that CANNOT BE CHANGED now is not a good idea. Stick around and find healing.
There is help out there. Sitting in a room and thinking is probably not going to help you. A depressed mind cannot heal a depressed mind. There are all sorts of organizations and people out there who are ready and willing to lend a hand. Friends, family, coworkers, therapists, your doctor…the list goes on. SEEK HELP before you make that final decision. You may be surprised how many people are there for you.
Thoughts are not facts When you are depressed and dealing with substance abuse, you are seeing the world through a filter. Your perception is skewed by your emotions and negative thoughts. THEY ARE NOT SHOWING YOU REALITY. Seeing reality through the eyes of someone who is not depressed, who is trained to understand depression and can help you, can make all the difference. Reach out and get help immediately.
Go to the Hospital If you are desperate and don’t know what to do, go to the hospital IMMEDIATELY. They will help you and get you through this5. A Phone Call Can Make a Huge Difference Call the National Suicide Helpline. They are there 24 hours a day 7 days a week National Suicide Prevention LifelineCall 1-800-273-8255Available 24 hours everydayhttps://suicidepreventionlifeline.org
One Phone Call Can Make a Huge Difference
It is easy to speculate about why Chester Bennington committed suicide, but we will never really know the facts. The only thing we can know is how his death makes us feel. We lost a beloved brother and mentor and those of us already prone to depression and/or substance abuse can now see how suicide can effect countless others. It is not a solution. Suicide takes a person’s pain and just spreads it to everyone else. If you are having suicidal thoughts, please reach out for help. The feelings you have right now will pass in time. Don’t give up before you’ve had a chance to heal.
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